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We live in a society that is peppered with opportunities to 鈥済ive to the needy.鈥� At the checkout stand, you can round up your purchase to an even number鈥攄onating the difference to homeless families or sick children; add a dollar to your meal for veterans in need or for educational programs; send an impoverished kid to summer camp or feed a whole family for your $1 donation. But actually accessing those donations requires people in need to navigate a gauntlet of forms, requirements, and waiting periods that could thwart even the most seasoned traveler.

I found this out recently after experiencing a family crisis that sent me into the night, trekking from Indiana to Colorado, my scared children in the back of my car along with only the belongings we could carry. I was somewhere in Iowa when I got the text that changed everything鈥攁gain. My destination in Colorado鈥攚ith a relative, another single mom with two girls鈥攚as no longer available. My relative was afraid of bringing the drama to her own family. I had to find somewhere else to go.

When driving through the Midwest in the middle of the night, things start looking like a video game. And not the sunny games with smiling mushrooms, princesses, and happy Italian plumbers. No, this is a serious, somber game where you must make it to the end with only one life, with no guides and no power-ups; the resources that do exist are well hidden. There are no game reviews or chat forums to scour for cheat codes or clues on how to reach the end alive. Instead, our hero must blindly stumble through, hoping to slap the right box or utter the right word to unleash a secret-but-essential guide who can point the way toward the final credits. 

Pulled over on the side of some highway in Iowa, I needed information鈥攁nd fast. I took to the internet, messaged, and called people I thought would be friends in the know. 鈥淭ry the shelters.鈥� 鈥淗ave you called your dad?鈥� Most people asked, 鈥淗ave you tried Googling?鈥� 

I had鈥攁nd I鈥檇 found out that the charities I so often saw promoting their donation campaigns to 鈥渞ound up your total鈥� or 鈥渁dd $1鈥� were just that: donation engines. Those charities send the money raised to other organizations, which have their own processes for distributing the funds. However, a single mother who鈥檚 scared, stressed, and homeless isn鈥檛 in a position to comb a site to look for application links. I eventually learned that those links do exist, just not where they can be easily found. 

I posted a message on Instagram describing my plight, along with links to my digital-payment profiles. I got help that night from my internet friends, and a best friend from childhood whom I hadn鈥檛 seen in forever. I鈥檒l call her Mo. Within minutes, I had a direct message from Mo: 鈥淗ow much do you need to get someplace safe for the night?鈥� That was all she asked. I told her. She asked for my payment information, and, minutes later, I was able to book the kids and myself into a safe space for the night. That was the first hidden bonus level I was able to access for direct support: social media. Next I posted a video describing our struggle to all my social media platforms and YouTube, along with my payment-app information.

That鈥檚 how I got the money to not only fund a place for that first night on the road, but also to cover our first month living in a hotel when we got to Colorado. Crowdfunding, including a , was the unexpected bonus I unlocked, and it helped tremendously.

I turned to these resources, desperate for a glimmer of hope, after I realized my family was not willing to support the safety of my kids and me. Months later, the only explanation anyone in my family has provided came via a social media DM: My family thinks I am wrong for leaving a marriage of 24 years. Because no one else will talk to me, I must assume this is true. 

After getting temporary shelter in Colorado, the next major hurdle was getting the kids into school. This endeavor requires certain documents鈥攊ncluding the children鈥檚 birth certificates. I didn鈥檛 have them, nor could I order them, due to a federal rule about permanent addresses. I didn鈥檛 have one of those.

So I met with a resource counselor at my kids鈥� school. During the meeting, I started to explain where I lived, only to have one of the kids blurt out, 鈥淎t the hotel!鈥� Apparently, the word 鈥渉otel鈥� unlocked another bonus level. The counselor told me about the federal , which guarantees access to education for children whose families are unhoused, migrant workers, or whose shelter is temporary. 

Thanks to the law, my kids were enrolled in class within a week of that meeting with the counselor. If one of my kids hadn鈥檛 said the code word 鈥渉otel,鈥� we would have been waiting weeks for help in enrolling, and we would have missed the treasure trove the counselor was about to share with us. The same counselor sent me a list of agencies and organizations that became my 鈥渃heat codes鈥� for navigating this game. Using the words 鈥淢cKinney-Vento鈥� unlocked a magic door to what felt like an easier level of playthrough.

The counselor鈥檚 resources also included , which I now know is available in all 50 states. Although it may not be advertised, the 211 system is like the 911 system in that all calls and texts are routed to the closest call center. The number in Colorado goes to the United Way in various counties, and, during business hours, it will connect callers with someone who can answer questions and offer contact information for support organizations. Operators are trained to address housing emergencies, suicide prevention, mental health crises, and domestic violence safety, among other topics. 

In my case, 211 helped connect me to , a state-run site where I could sign up for a range of services with one application: housing, medical insurance, child care assistance, public-transportation aid, food, jobs, and more. The Peak caseworker I spoke with also told me about programs that helped with the deposit and first month鈥檚 rent payments for families in transition, in addition to cash aid for families without work. It was like she had opened a 鈥渓oot chest鈥� and was handing me weapons to use in my quest.

It does take time for those programs to kick in鈥攁bout a month from the time I filed the applications. As such, there was a moment when I did not have the money to pay for our hotel room for another week. I鈥檇 been paying weekly to save $110 versus the daily rate, and I needed the money in a few days. Our crowdfunding had dried up. A friend suggested the Black Fairy Godmother. She sounded like an oracle in a game, sent to give advice and set the players back on the right track.

She did just that. I found the 鈥攕he is also known as Simone Gordon, a philanthropist who dedicates her social media accounts to helping families in need. I found Gordon鈥檚 email address, and she guided me to the application on her website. Less than 24 hours later, she had raised $600 by telling my story on social media and gathering donations from her followers. I鈥檝e learned that there are a few other organizations that do similar work, including the , , and . 

At the time of this writing, my kids and I are on the waiting list for several housing spaces, and I have landed a job to help cover the costs of the hotel until permanent housing comes through. The divorce is pending, but the kids and I are safe, fed, and here.

My experience has made me look closely at the many spaces where donations to help the needy have become practically routine. I now want to know where that money goes and how someone can access it when needed. There are too many families in dire need who don鈥檛 have a month, a week, or even a day to wait. They are face-to-face with a treacherous foe, and they need those code words, those secret passageways, and access to Black Fairy Godmothers now. I hope this beacon finds them and helps light the way.