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While all the airtime from Halloween to New Years might as well be one big commercial for mega-corporations, in the here and now there are plenty of ways to reclaim the holiday season. At the end of the day, the holidays are time off from work (thanks, unions) and to re-focus, at least for a day, away from computers and onto our relationships with real, live humans: eat, drink, and be merry IRL (In Real Life).

Remind Uncle Tony that there鈥檚 also cause for hope in people working for progressive change on the ground.

Like any extended amount of time spent with family, though, the holidays are complicated. There have been a lot of intense stories in the news these past few months鈥攆rom the mid-term elections to grand jury decisions not to indict police officers Darren Wilson or Daniel Pantaleo鈥攖hat are bound to come up between helpings of food. The question for many going into this gift-giving season is how to engage with these moments productively, hearing loved ones鈥� perspectives while, ideally, guiding the conversation forward.

Thankfully, pop culture provides us with some intergenerational reference points that you can use as on-ramps to a fruitful exchange when Uncle Tony, for instance, decides to entertain the room with a monologue about ISIL halfway into his sixth glass of boxed wine. This year鈥檚 most popular movies and TV series can be a tool to work your way out of a particularly bad conversation, as with Tony or the fictional (and admittedly hyperbolic) relatives presented below. In general, though, the best way to proceed might be to breathe, listen, and talk from personal experience about your views after evaluating where your family members鈥� deeply held values lie, rather than their talking points.

Should you exhaust all other options, here is an entirely uncomprehensive guide to this holiday鈥檚 most blood boiling moments, brought to you by some of your finest guilty pleasures: [In case you haven鈥檛 watched/read the cultural touchstones below, moderate spoilers could be ahead.]

1. The midterm elections: House of Cards

At noon, already-drunk Uncle Tony may start talking about how 鈥渢he country鈥檚 going to shit,鈥� bemoaning both parties as corrupt and full of scumbags and liars. Kindly assure him that he鈥檚 not far off. The American political system operates something like the one in House of Cards: greedy, conniving politicians鈥攖he vast majority of them鈥攅ngage in shameless self-promotion to further their own careers, but don鈥檛 look half as good doing it as Frank and Claire Underwood do.

State senate races can get mighty tense, but they tend not to be as amoral as those featured in House of Cards.

All that said, remind Tony that there鈥檚 also cause for hope in people working for progressive change on the ground. Even in this past election cycle, campaigners have managed to elect better candidates and back elected officials far enough into a corner that they鈥檝e been forced to do the right thing (). Need proof? Read up on recent victories in and a, and on like paid sick days and minimum wage hikes across the country. Even for more conservative relatives, you may find some common ground for excitement in New York鈥檚 recent and Obama鈥檚 support of net neutrality鈥攐r commiserate together over Wall Street and the GOP鈥檚 tag-team effort to

Although saving Congress and the White House might seem a Sisyphean task in 2014, state and local elections might offer Tony a little more solace. State senate races and local school board elections can get mighty tense, but the players involved tend not to be quite as amoral as the hardened, Machiavellian whips and vice presidents featured in House of Cards.

2. Income inequality: The Hunger Games

If Aunt Joan starts complaining about the evils of food stamps and 鈥渇ree riders,鈥� divert the conversation by asking a series of questions about whether she has enjoyed the Hunger Games movie series, the first two of which are practically tailor-made to start a conversation about income inequality. Katniss Everdeen, the series鈥� protagonist, is from a district that mines coal to power the Capitol鈥檚 all-night ragers while its own citizens starve.

Ask: 鈥淲ho do you like better? Katniss or President Snow?鈥�; 鈥淒oes it seem fair for the Capitol to kill teenagers?鈥�; 鈥淭eam Peeta or Team Gale?鈥� Slowly drift back toward entitlement programs, wading cautiously into topics such as money in politics, the corporate tax rate, the Great Recession, and subprime lending. Should things get heated between you and Joan, remember that the real enemies are on Wall Street鈥攏ot in your living room.

The series鈥� latest installment, Mockingjay鈥擯art 1, finds Katniss as the reluctant figurehead of a movement to upend capital control over fledgling rebel state District 13. The focus on movements is another great take-away from the Hunger Games series that you can pass around with the Christmas ham: It鈥檚 going to take a big and serious movement to confront the 1 percent and build political and economic systems that work for everyone. If all else fails, propose a post-wrapping paper clean-up outing to go see Mockingjay鈥擯art 1, still out in many theaters nationwide. You鈥檒l get to sit in beautiful silence for nearly two hours, and hopefully have the grounds for a more productive conversation afterwards. If you want to get really deep, just start with the first installment on Netflix.

3. LGBTQ Rights: X-Men

Even if your family hasn鈥檛 seen Days of Future Past, the most recent X-Men film adaptation, they鈥檙e probably familiar with the comic’s basic premise: Mutants are humans born with genetic mutations that give them special powers. Humans target and criminalize mutants, stigmatizing them in ways similar to how trans and gender queer folks (and those whose sexuality is anything but straight) have been unjustly punished for their identities.

The moral of the story is the same: We win together, and we lose together.

In X-Men, mutants are the way they are, and it鈥檚 not just fine鈥攊t鈥檚 awesome. There are also lots of different kinds of mutants, and they鈥檙e all awesome in different ways. Unlike mutants, though, people aren鈥檛 born with a gender or sexuality; to quote Orange Is the New Black鈥檚 Piper Chapman, everyone 鈥淸falls] somewhere on a spectrum鈥� that鈥檚 constantly developing over time. That also means that some mutants are targeted more severely than others, based on the nature of their powers. Embarking on a conversation with a relative who raises an eyebrow at even a passing reference to The L Word, you might ask how she feels about the war on mutants: Do they deserve to be targeted? Why or why not?

In Days of Future Past, targeting visible mutants leads to not only all mutants being targeted but life becoming worse for everyone on earth, what with Bolivar Trask鈥檚 giant mutant-killing Sentinel robots walking around. Although giant predatory robots are an obvious blow to everyone鈥檚 quality of life, talking about our very nonfictional world鈥檚 own Sentinels (prisons, regressive legislation, discriminatory policing) could be a good starting place. In Days of Future Past, mutants join forces with human allies and defeat the robots by traveling back in time; predictably, life gets better for everyone. Even without the benefit of time travel, the moral of the story is the same: We win together, and we lose together.

4. #BlackLivesMatter: Orange Is the New Black

In light of the events of the past several weeks, it鈥檚 almost certain that someone is going to start a dinner table conversation about the lack of indictments for police officers and/or the ensuing protests in Ferguson, Missouri, New York, and around the country. This section is written largely for white people to talk with their families because I鈥檓 not about to tell people of color how to handle conversations about race.

Explaining the intricacies of the prison-industrial complex may not be the best place to start.

It also deserves mention that as valuable and timely as these dinner table conversations within white communities are, they鈥檙e no substitute for actually responding to calls for solidarity with those organizing on the ground. Donate to and . Show up to protests when called to do so and mobilize your friends to do the same, especially if you鈥檝e got access to resources, extensive networks, and specialized skills. For more suggestions on what you can do in the case of Ferguson in particular,

This holiday season, explaining the intricacies of the prison-industrial complex and systemic racism may not be the best place to start with your cousin鈥檚 new meathead boyfriend. In this case, you can turn to Netflix for help. Ask Scott, who just finished telling a cringe-worthy story about his frat鈥檚 latest , to recall that time in the second season of Orange Is the New Black when Piper is released temporarily from prison to visit her dying grandmother. Why was she chastised by other inmates? Because, like the majority of characters in the show and the country鈥檚 real-life prison population, temporary release鈥攁nd any extension of compassion from the criminal justice system鈥攊s like a unicorn at a Nirvana reunion tour.

Point out the similarities between Piper and officer Darren Wilson; namely, that they are both white. How are they treated similarly and given exceptions that people of color in their worlds are not afforded? Similar comparisons can be made across the criminal justice system, from prisons to the legal system to extra-judicial killings.

Tread carefully here. These discussions can turn ugly fast because racism is an ugly thing. By no means will a sly OITNB reference turn Scott into an anti-racist hero, but, combined with some real empathy, it may get him thinking.

As Janee Woods noted in white people taking the time to talk to white friends and family about the killings of Mike Brown, Eric Garner, and countless others is important year-round: 鈥淢oments of crisis do not need to be the catalyst because taking action against systemic racism is always appropriate because systemic racism permeates nearly every institution and community in this country.鈥�

In general, Woods鈥� piece is a great primer for anyone hoping to start these conversations, ones that ideally won鈥檛 end once the tree鈥檚 taken down.